My life has undergone great change recently so I wanted to keep my 2019 resolutions focused on cosy simplicity.
I intend to write more about each of these areas of my life in the future. So, here is just an overview of what is going to be important to me in the coming year.
- Create a more sustainable life with much less plastic and waste in general. So far this is going well. I was very excited to receive my bulk purchase of plastic and bleach free, bamboo eco toilet rolls and tissues yesterday! Read more on my progress to date here.
- Streamline my life by decluttering and focusing on an ideal of being a Hygge Minimalist. Minimalism is an idea that I have become increasingly interested in over the past couple of years. And – getting divorced certainly gives you a head start as you move half the stuff in your house into the garage!! However, I also love the Danish concept of Hygge. This idea cannot be translated exactly but pertains to comfort and cosiness to make life enjoyable. I have no desire to give up my creature comforts and become a stark minimalist – so I have created my own path with suits me: Hygge Minimalism. (No doubt the purists on either side of that concept would be horrified by this combination – but it works for me!)
- Define my rules for a “No spend” challenge year and stick to them. I started a No Spend challenge last year but struggled as neither my husband – nor my new baby – were on board with the idea. This year I feel I have a new autonomy to make it work. I am also armed with knowledge from last year about my spending patterns. I will be combining this with embracing some of Dave Ramsey’s financial management principles. Not exactly fun or exciting – but kids are expensive. So is divorce. And therefore, unfortunately, indulging in divorce-induced retail therapy is simply not an option!
- Join the #150hoursoutside project. A great, simple idea that I’m sure my girls will love – and I think would benefit everyone… for more details click here.
- Reduce screen time. This one is for both myself and my daughters. For the girls I operate a no screens policy for much of the time – with some exceptions: holidays, Friday evenings – or when I’m home alone, need to take a shower and ensure my toddler sits in one spot without moving for ten minutes… it is very effective! For myself, I work at a laptop for a lot of the time and rarely watch TV – but do scroll aimlessly on my phone through social media or for retail therapy. Clearly the retail bit has to stop anyway – but also I need a screen detox. The first step here is to work out my limits and find out how to do this!
- Reduce sugar in my diet. Having had gestational diabetes and put on over five stones during both pregnancies – I then also managed to take off the extra weight in 2018. Having received an “all clear” blood test before Christmas I have allowed too many sweet treats back into my diet. I know that I will always be at risk of diabetes in later life – so I need to ensure I get this under control and create a healthy and sustainable eating plan (rather than a diet) in 2019. (Yes, I will do this. Right after I have eaten every last morsel of sweet Christmas food in the house…)
- Create a daily yoga practice. I have long had the dream of training as a yoga instructor. Having done some research in 2018 – I then fell headlong into the divorce and got sidetracked! I understand that I need to dedicate myself to creating a sustainable daily home yoga practice which I stick to for a year before I can move forwards with the greater goal of taking my practice further. 2019 is my year to do that. No paying for another course of fancy classes… back to basics. I have practiced on and off for twenty years so I know what I am doing – more or less. Time to get on with it!
- Actively pursue a more flexible work life balance. As a single parent family, life is going to have to change in terms of my work life balance to ensure the girls get sufficient parent time. As a former workaholic, however, I have no idea how to do this – yet. But, upon returning to the office later this month, I will be proactive in addressing this need to enable as much family time as possible.
- Find a way to create a positive family rhythm for our “new normal”. Divorce changes the atmosphere of the home. I want to learn much more about family rhythms and positive parenting so I can do my best for my girls as we move through the divorce and beyond. I am particularly interested in smoothing the ambiance in our home between when it is just us, when their Daddy visits (and leaves again) and the flow of integrating wider family and friends so we feel more connected to our community.
- Live more intentionally – being guided by the question “what would you do if you weren’t afraid?” Last but not least – this is something I have become very passionate about and the word which will guide my year is “Fearless”. Read more about why here.
I love the accountability of writing a blog and how it will inspire me to keep going throughout the year! Any suggestions on how best to achieve any of the above – please do get in touch!
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